How You Attract and Influence the People You Lead
Think of the times in your life when you were a “laser beam” intensely focused on something that you wanted. It might have been a part in a play you wanted, it might be in sports, success that you wanted, it might’ve been a grade that you wanted. It might be a significant other that you wanted, and you obsessed, and you thought, and you dreamed, and you focused, and you acted, and you ignored other things and there was nothing else in life. Everything else was a distraction because you wanted this outcome so badly.
What if that was your consciousness all the time? You are going all out in a meeting for an outcome, in a conversation with a child, with a spouse, with a friend, with a colleague. What if that was your consciousness as a Leader?
Whether this only changes a few sentences today in your meeting, because this epic consciousness starts to show up, with those few sentences, they’re going to get you in the pit of your stomach. Because you’re going to say something that potentially hurts somebody, you’re the “oncologist” and you’ve got go after an emotional tumor that’s presented itself in the conversation.
People will say, “Oh I’m telling a white lie because I don’t want to hurt your feelings.” No, you’re telling a white lie because if you tell them the white truth, they’re going to be mad at you, they’re not going to like you. They’re going to somehow punish or penalize you, and you don’t want that. You like them, you love them, you care about them, and you care about you.
So you as a leader, when you ask yourself, “How am I going to show up? What is my laser beam focused on today? Who am I going to be? What am I going to say? What am I going to take on? What am I going to risk? Who am I going to risk alienating? Am I going to risk hurting somebody’s feelings?”
You have these opportunities, and the more you are this person, guess what? The more you are, the Universe, your creator, whatever your Law of Attraction system is, the more people find you, get brought to you, connect to you, and the more you have to step your game up.
This is a huge turning point. It’s not just turn the light on the front porch, like the old Motel 6 slogan: “We’ll leave the light on!” No, think of that moment at the movie premier, and there’s a moment where the big, bright klieg light comes on. WHOOSH!!!
Yeah, you are ready. People are drawn to you, people want you, the planet begins to respond to you.
The system that responds to the “Old You” is well known, well in place. The people that call you, the people that don’t call you, the people that ignore you, (and sometimes it’s loved ones, people that work for you, a business partner.) I can’t tell you how many times someone tells me they had a leadership moment and they will say, “This person did not do…blah blah”
And I say, “Great, what did you do?”
And if they passive aggressively responded to the person, I will tease them, “You really influenced the crap out of that moment, didn’t you?!”
Very kindly and gently, I give them some chemo and radiation on the “software” tumor and I ask, “Why didn’t you say to them (to the Universe) exactly what you said to me? You had that energy, probably more in that moment. It activated you, upset you, why didn’t you?“
And they respond with something like:
“Well, I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings”
or “I don’t want to have them be mad at me.”
or “I don’t know, I am not completely sure.”
It’s all old software bullshit!
The Old You has a response system that’s very well defined, very well delineated. So people that are meant to find Old You, and be influenced by Old You, that has happened and it will continue to happen.
But the people, the other superset, that are designed to be attached to the epic and legendary you, the person that wants to love you epically, desperately looking for you and can’t find you in all the other old systems traveling around out there. And they look into someone else’s eyes and wonder, “are you him or her?” And bounce from person to person, and wonder, “is it meant to be?”
This applies to all walks of life, whether it’s romance, a job, a project, everything!
The Universe, the system, is looking to interact with you at newer, higher, better, and more connected levels. You have to laser beam focus, step up, declare, become conscious of your intention. What is your leadership? Who are you as a leader? How do you laser beam influence and impact people?
When you do this, everything changes.